Who would have thought that the deep freeze (-50 Farenheit) could be a source of inspiration and reminders of how healing works?

I didn’t, at first. Then the Deep Freeze brought a frozen drain pipe in my house, burst pipes resulting in a small lake (ok, very large puddle!) in the course room at the Center, and then a much bigger, deeper puddle in the basement of the back house. Apparently the local mouse population wanted warmth so much they ate a hole in the foundation and braved the dogs who live in the house in order to survive. A small stream of water was flowing in as it rained and melted the snow behind the house.  I learned about hydraulic cement used to fix an active leak in a cement/brick wall.  Leak stopped, creek no longer flowing in. Repair of an appropriate boundary – the tenants live in the house, the mice and the water stay outside.

The burst pipes at the Center required replacement of the toilets – improving the letting go flow. It took a freeze to get the attention of the landlord that the room needed better care (heating) and attention. Properly attended to, the pipes would not have frozen. How often do we not attend to our emotions with love (heat) and keep them flowing?

On the other end of the spectrum, the drain pipe in my basement is clogged. Frozen clogs are harder to dissolve!! If I had remembered to clean the pipes with enzymes a few times during the year, this would not have happened. Another lesson on maintenance and attention. There’s some drainage, must be about pretty small hole, cause it takes hours for an inch or two of water to drain. Good news is there is flow. Remembering to appreciate that there is flow and following-up with patience, makes it easier to wait for the heat to thaw the pipe, preparing for the full flow.

Sometimes letting go, change, is a slow process. The larger and more frozen the energy clog, the more important it is to create safety with love and let it melt, rather than trying to blow it up with force, saving the pipe (your body) in the process.

Looking at these situations as an opportunity to learn helped me to not get upset or angry. I could simply do what needed to be done in the moment to handle it -urgency or patience where needed, plus gratitude for resolution and repair.

Life gives us teachers in many forms, we just have to be open to see the lessons. When we are, it’s easier to learn!

And remember that maintenance, keeping the boundaries strong and the pathways clear, can keep future crises away.

 

 

 

 

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Thinking about “growing” some goals, making some changes, starting something new? Whether you are making changes for growing your business or a having a more satisfying personal life, you may want to remember this story.

Wanting to fill his yard with the smell of lilacs, the man planted several bushes in his garden. After a few weeks, he was frustrated because they hadn’t blossomed and he pulled them up and replanted them in another part of the garden. “Perhaps they’ll get more sun here and then blossom,” he thought. A month later, they still hadn’t blossomed.

So he pulled them up and replanted in another area of the garden, this time angrier than before. In the fall, the bushes still hadn’t blossomed so he pulled them out and threw them away!

Immediate gratification.  American society is programmed for it – a pill to take away the headache, a candy bar for instant energy, a credit card so you can buy what you want right now. We want what we want and we want it when we want it.

We forget that the world is made of cycles and processes. The lilac bushes needed a season to settle into the earth and send down roots. Nature gives us the wonderful example of seeds needing to build root systems before they sprout above ground and grow into the plant they were meant to be.

In your business or personal life, have you been pulling up the roots, replanting in what you thought might be sunnier spots, only to find that you aren’t getting the blossoms you yearn for? Perhaps it would be best if take the time to nurture a root system.

Get grounded. Explore through books and seminars the possibilities and potentials available to you. Make sure that you are not operating out of anxiousness, frustration, anger, stress or fatigue. The choices we make at emotional times are often not well processed through our “root system” and therefore don’t usually reflect Who We Were Meant To Be. Instead those choices reflect the chaos of the storm going on around us. Allow the storm front to move through. Just notice the emotions, feel them at the moment. There is no need to take action, other than to protect yourself if necessary from the elements that might be dangerous to you. When the storm has passed, the calm settles in. Review what has happened.

Before making decisions to sprout into the new business, relationship, home or whatever new directions you are choosing, remember the Chinese bamboo, Moso, takes several years to build it’s root system before ever appearing above ground. However, it’s root system is so strong that it will grow to 60 to 75 feet tall in the five years following it’s appearance. The bamboo will grow to a strong and powerful eight inches in diameter.

Gib Cooper is a bamboo gardner. He offers this saying for us to ponder…. The first year they sleep. The second year they creep. The third year they leap!

When you approach a new endeavor, you would do well to consider the wisdom of the Moso gardner. Take the time to plant and nurture the seeds of your new endeavor, choose wisely the plant you wish to become and then watch as your power and strength grow in proportion to the root system you have developed. Give up immediate gratification for the long term pleasure, satisfaction, and strength of the moso forest!

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Rants and Ramblings on a Summer Morning

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Delayed Gratification, say yes to no, discipline yourself. But I don’t want to!!!! I want to just do what I feel like doing, when I feel like doing it. I don’t want to go to work. I don’t want to clean the house. I want to watch tv. I want to read a book. I […]

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